But here we go anyway.
My framework says the aspects of ourselves we most want to portray to the world are likely our structure speaking. So make of that what you will.
I'm a data scientist. I lead a team who train (and plead with) LLMs and neural networks to be well behaved and do as they're told.
My degree is in maths and physics, my masters in control theory. I think in optimisation theory, in cost functions and gradient descent. In my heart I'm still a physicist. I believe in unified theories that describe mechanisms of behaviour.
At the same time, I love human beings. I love relationships. I love the messy reality of life. I've been on a quest to understand human nature all my life.
I'm also motivated by spreading kindness and compassion, desperately trying to make the world a slightly better, nicer, place.
This theory is the result of all these aspects of my personality coming together.
And so it's certain. We will keep getting hurt. Keep hurting others. Keep building those bypasses. And keep lying to ourselves. But this is the messiness. The friction. And this is how we erode. And that has to be ok.